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LOVE OR INFATUATION?
True romantic love develops slowly and gradually. Infatuation develops at almost no time. True love always starts slowly. You have to know a person before you can truly love that person. Those who rush into marriage learn it by sad experience of self-made miseries. Infatuation is rushing into a bad decision. True is attracted in the total personality of the one love. Infatuation is mainly interested in the physical features. Infatuation depends on few non-sense things. True love is attracted with most of the qualities of the one love.
True love affects your whole personality. Willing to learn, adjust and change to bring out the better qualities. Infatuation is blind and daydreaming –trying to believe that the only thing that matters is their love for each other. True love is not only interested in the whole person but that interest is growing warmer as the day goes by. In infatuation, the interest for each other grows between hot and cold –if not freezing.
True love believes that the most important person in the whole world next to Christ is the one you love. Infatuation revolves only around the merry-go-round of fantasy but always searching for someone new. Separation and distance makes true love fonder. Infatuation will not survive the test of separation and distance but will seek happiness in another person. True love always cultivates and never dominates.
True love causes two different personalities grow intimately together that when separated even for short time-a part of you seems to be missing. True love will live through quarrels and lots of disagreements-learning how to handle conflicts with poise. Infatuation may do a lot of kissing and making up but later may declare war that may never be solved.
True love can easily resolve quarrels and disagreements for healthier relationship. Infatuation can ignite little disagreement into a massive forest fire leading into permanent break-up. True love is concern about giving way to improve and build stronger relationship. Infatuation is concern only about getting and receiving from the relationship for personal gains and interest. True love is always unselfish –always giving. Infatuation is always waiting to receive and getting. True love dwells in genuine humility and sacrifice for the one love. Infatuation dwells in human ego and castle of arrogance.
True love is always responsible-willing to pay the cost –willing to endure hardship and suffering. Infatuation is always ready to escape into the open sea of unreliability. True love is not love at first sight but the result of knowing and accepting the person just as he/she is. Some people are infatuated (not in love) with God, which they did not know about, as they are infatuated with a man or with a woman that they did not know.
J. R. Cherreguine Bible Doctrine Ministries.
HOW TO TELL IF YOU ARE
IN LOVE
True romantic love distinguishes between a body and a person. Choosing a girl because of her beauty and shape is unstable criterion. She might become Coca-cola all right- but 2000 ml. in the next few years. Selecting a guy for his physique and good-looking face is like selecting a treacherous great white shark over the friendly ugly humpback whale.
True love generates respect. Erotic lover who whispers sweet nothing in private but tear you down in public is like a clown. He is using another person to produce laughter by giving his lover bad remarks. Such person will do well in circus but not in the family. True is self-giving –it is not what you can get from another person but what you can give with out expecting anything in return. The passionate desire for her/his body is not love but lust. Any prostitute can fully satisfied that burning desires.
True can thrive without physical expression until full commitment for marriage. If your only reason for having a sweetheart is to have someone to hug and caress- better buy yourself a life size doll. True love will not pay with sex and escape. It will not hurt the other person after getting what he/she likes. True love is willing to pay the full cost of responsibility.
True love seeks to build a life and permanent relationship of marriage. The objective and goal of any relationship is marriage. Marriage is a triangular relationship between God, a man and a woman, not a triangle between three persons. Lust will not settle for octagon. True love is not for experimental and trial purposes. The basic principle is not to be involved with anybody you are not willing to marry. Get involved only after you physically, emotionally and spiritually prepared.
True love embraces difficult serious and difficult responsibility. Marital responsibility is far more than money. It is commitment to love the other person come what may. Lollipops and roses have nothing to do with true love. True love can postpone gratification of sexual passion. True love can wait till marriage. Only a righteous person with Bible doctrine in the soul can function in this manner.
True love is basically a commitment. Feeling, emotion, selfish and childish expressions would change and fall-out of love. Fallen expectations and broken promises are basic elements that you can avoid. You have to endure them. Personality differences, unpleasant and bad communication, misunderstanding and numerous marital problems are subjects for rebuilding the relationship not criteria for separation. Immature couple cannot handle such problems.
Marriage is a garage where both the husband and wife work to repair the errors and damages of their blissful relationship. It is not a recreation center for children to pass away their boredom.
Marriage is not the solution to many problems of the adolescent and teen-age life but a puzzle of problems for adults to solve and enjoy. True love is founded on the Word of God ignite by the virtue love for God and for man. It is for the right man and right woman –not for kids.
J. R. Cherreguine Bible Doctrine Ministries
REASONS WHY SEX SHOULD WAIT
UNTIL MARRIAGE
God designed sex exclusively for married couples only, not for those who are in love. Our liberated society under the influence of the new morality is destroying the divine will regarding this issue. Today, love is defined as sex. Many young lovers are interested only with their passions and desire and not with the relationship.
Sex is for pleasure of married couples and not for those seeking pleasures or sexual experiences. God designed sex for pleasure, procreation and physical intimacy of husband and wife not for those seeking sexual adventure outside legitimate marriage. Sex before marriage or outside the legitimate marriage may end-up to broken relationships, broken family, broken hearts, separation and painful memories.
Sex outside or before marriage may result to unwanted child, which means additional responsibility and headache Teen-age marriage always results to self-made miseries for both of the couple. Giving in to sex before marriage, is not proof of your love but a sign of passionate lust. There is proper time for everything under the sun.
Sex with the wrong person at the wrong time is unhelpful and sadistic disregarding the impact on the other party. The unbelievers are of the world but for Christian to adopt the trend of the world is to reject the will of God (and to manufacture self-made miseries). Sex is for mature people with genuine commitment to love each other, regardless of the consequences.
Believers who follow the trend of the world regarding free sex or the new morality code (of sexual perversion) are living under the satanic will. The ability to have sex is not a sign of masculinity for a man and is not a sign of felinity for a woman. Sex proves nothing. Dogs just do it for no reason at all, except for their biological instinct. Sexual pleasure is temporal. Those who are seeking frantic happiness from sex will always be disappointed because sex cannot fill up the vacuum in your soul. Sex cannot fill-up the loneliness, the boredom and emptiness of your soul. Only God can answer that emptiness.
Sex is not everything but God is. The beasts have their own pleasure of sex but they cannot possess happiness from sex. Man in the same manner cannot find any happiness from sex. God alone is the source of true happiness. Sex is not love. Real love can wait but lust is very hungry for sex.
Sexual purity is not replaceable. The real issue here is the soul for the person. Sexual perversion is the deviation from the normal function and therefore, it is not only social, political emotional sin but as well as spiritual in nature. Christian must aim to become spiritual and advancing believer- the best for his/her lover. A person whose mind is always filled with sex will eventually become a rapist, sex maniac or adulterer. A person who is not satisfied with one wife or one husband will always look for another
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